很多的你们是不是觉得。越是爱了。越是无法沟通，越是爱了，越是容易争吵，越是爱了，越是累。

因为你在乎得比自己还重要，在你心里。你想让它更完美，所以变得苛刻。

其实女人是男人的学校

二十出头的男人都是不成熟的是幼稚的

你用自己最美好的二十几岁时光去改造一个男人

与一个和自己一样大的男人在一起要很费心

从一次次的误会中女人教会他们如何让女人

从一次次的争吵中女人教会他们如何哄女人

从一次次的冷战中女人教会他们如何懂得珍惜女人

她们教会他们的太多太多

但是这个过程是漫长而艰辛的

经历了太多太多

有过太多太多的磨合和争吵

他们还是不成熟

然而似乎已经一点点的靠近成熟

有时候

男人与女人甚至觉得互相难以沟通

在女人看来是男人错的时候

当然

他们认为自己没有错

于是

她们哭泣争吵歇斯底里

他们却觉得她们不可理喻

成熟的男人是不会让自己的女人那么伤心的

有时候没有绝对的谁对谁错

双方之间需要有一个人站出来主动道歉

就会海阔天空

但是那个人

永远都不能是女人

因为女人永远是弱者

当有一天他们开始争吵

他还是不肯让着她

她痛苦万分

那个不成熟的男人会极尽幼稚的去气她

不去安慰她

让她自己去释然

眼泪哭干了

也等不来一句

但是因为她爱他

想要和他一直过下去

女人选择了忍受和包容

心想只要这个男人爱她就好

不会哄人就算了

虽然很想被她哄

终于有一天

争吵的悲剧又接二连三的上演

她们忍不了了

于是她们内心纠结

结果只有两个

要么他改变

要么她忍

然而这时候的她们的心

累了 倦了  也快死了

是放还是不放？

放下这个和自己相恋多年的男人？

不舍

但是每次生气的时候就痛不欲生

有些女人放弃了

男人重新获得了自由

他可能暂时把精力放到其他地方

他去工作

去生活

去成长

直到某一天

再次遇到一个女人

可能是和之前某些很像的女人

这次

他们成熟了

懂得去哄人了

懂得去主动道歉

懂得去为她们买礼物

懂得去怎么让她们开心

他们再也不会像以前那样吵的很凶互不相让了

可这些其实都是之前的那个她一步一步的教出来的

她把他教会了

又拱手让给了别人

教他的过程里

是甜蜜夹杂着泪水的

男人是比同龄的女人要不成熟的

几乎所有男人都是这样

等待着一个女人去改造的

这么说来并不是说女人很可怜

如果你足够爱他

有足够的宽容

就去当他的学校

去改造他

那么

等尝到收获的喜悦就是自己的

累了倦了的女人也可以直接找一个成熟懂事的

他们会很懂事的处理好一切

唯一不同的是

他们心中一定会记得当初和他们争吵的那个女人

那个教会了他们认识女人的女人

这时候的他们都会在想

原来

人是这么的矛盾和自私

Do you know who is the most well-known person in China?

The name of this person is a household word all over the country. His name is Cha and his given name, Buduo, which altogether mean “About the Same”. He is a native of every province, every country and every village in this country. You must have seen or heard about this person. His name is always on the lips of everybody because he is representative of the whole Chinese nation.

Mr. Cha Buduo has the same physiognomy as you and I. He has a pair of eyes, but doesn’t see clearly. He has a pair of ears, but doesn’t hear well. He has a nose and a mouth, but lacks a keen sense of smell and taste. His brain is none too small, but he is weak in memory and sloppy in thinking. He often says: “whatever we do, it’s OK to be just about right. What’s the use of being precise and accurate:”

One day, when he was a child, his mother sent him out to buy her some brown sugar, but he returned with some white sugar instead. As his mother scolded him about it, he shook his head and said, “Brown sugar or white sugar, aren’t they about the same?” One day in school, the teacher asked him, “Which province borders Hebei on the west?” He answered, “Shaanxi,” The teacher corrected him, “You are wrong. It’s Shanxi, Not Shaanxi.” He retorted, “Shaanxi or Shanxi, aren’t they about the same?” Later Mr. Cha Buduo served as an assistant at a money shop. He could write and calculate all right, but his mathematics were/was often faulty. He would mistake the Chinese character十（meaning 10）for 千（meaning 1000）or vice versa. The shop owner was infuriated and often took him to task. But he would only explain apologetically with a grin, “The character千differs from 十in merely having one additional short stroke. Aren’t they about the same?”

One day, he wanted to go to Shanghai by train on urgent business. But he arrived at the railway station unhurriedly only to find the train already gone, because he was two minutes late. He stood staring helplessly at the smoke belching from the diminishing train, and shook his head, “Well, all I can do is leave tomorrow. After all, today and tomorrow are about the same. But isn’t the railway taking it too seriously? What’s the difference between departing at 8:30 and 8:32?” He walked home slowly while talking to himself and kept puzzling over why the train hadn’t waited for him for two minutes more.

One day he suddenly fell ill and immediately told one of his family to fetch Dr. Wang of East Street. The latter went in hurry, but couldn’t find the physician on East Street. So he fetched instead Veterinarian Wang of West Street. Mr. Cha Buduo, lying on his sickbed, knew that a wrong person had been brought home. But, what with pain and worry, he could ill afford to wait any longer. So he said to himself, “Luckily, Vet Wang is about the same as Dr. Wang. Why not let Vet Wang have a try?” there- upon, the veterinarian walked up to his bed to work on him as if he were a cow. Consequently, Mr. Cha Buduo kicked the bucket before an hour was out.

When Mr. Cha Buduo was about to breathe his last, he uttered intermittently in one breath, “Live or die, it’s about…about…the same…Whatever we do…it’s OK…to be …just…just about right... Why…why…take it…so seriously?” as soon as he finished this pet phrase of his, he stopped breathing.

After Mr. Cha Buduo death, people all praised him for his way of seeing things and his philosophical approach to life. They say that he refused to take things seriously all his life and that he was never calculating or particular about personal gains or losses. So they called him a virtuous man and honored him with the posthumous reverent title Master of Easy-Going. His name has spread far and wide and become more and more celebrated with the passing of time. Innumerable people have come to follow his example, so that everybody has become a Mr. Cha Buduo. But lo, China will hence be a nation of lazybones!
注释：
胡适（1891-1962）的《差不多先生传》是一篇针砭社会陋习的讽刺小品，1924年6月28日发表在《申报•平民周刊》的创刊号上，曾不胫而走，传诵一时。此文至今读来，犹感有极深刻的现实意义。
(1)“他姓差，名不多”如仅仅译为His name is Cha and his given name, Buduo，外国读者只知其音，不知其意，故在后面加补充说明which altogether mean “About the Same”。
(2)“他的思想也不很细密”译为He is…sloppy in thinking, 其中sloppy作“无条理”、“凌乱”解。
(3)“直隶”为旧省名，即今之“河北”，故译为Ｈebei。
(4)“钱铺”又称“钱庄”，大多仅从事兑换业务，后为银行所代替。“钱铺”可译为private bank或banking house，但均不如money (exchange) shop确切。
(5)“格言”在这里意同“口头语”，现参照上下文译为pet phrase。
(6)“想得通”意即“达观”或“随遇而安”，故译为philosophical approach to life

关于2011年

部分节假日安排的通知

国办发明电〔2010〕40号

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根据国务院《关于修改<全国年节及纪念日放假办法>的决定》，为便于各地区、各部门及早合理安排节假日旅游、交通运输、生产经营等有关工作，经国务院批准，现将2011年元旦、春节、清明节、劳动节、端午节、中秋节和国庆节放假调休日期的具体安排通知如下。

一、元旦：1月1日至3日放假公休，共3天。

二、春节：2月2日（农历除夕）至8日放假调休，共7天。1月30日（星期日）、2月12日（星期六）上班。

三、清明节：4月3日至5日放假调休，共3天。4月2日（星期六）上班。

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